Mistake #7: The “LOL” Addiction

(AKA: The Nervous Giggle)

What is so funny?

Seriously. Ask yourself right now. Why are you laughing?

I look at your phone and I see a sea of “lol,” “haha,” and “lmao” attached to sentences that are about as funny as a root canal.

• “Hey, what are you doing? lol”
• “I’m just heading home haha”
• “That’s cool lol”

Stop it.

When you end every single sentence with a laugh, you don’t look easy-going or fun. You look nervous. You sound like that guy at a party who giggles after everything he says because he’s terrified of an awkward silence.

Why You Do It (And Why It Turns Her Off)

I know why you do it. It’s a shield.

You are insecure. You are afraid that if you say something directly, it might come off as too serious, too aggressive, or too “intense.” So, you throw a “lol” at the end to soften the blow. It’s your safety net. If she reacts badly, you can just say, “Whoa, chill, I was just joking! Didn’t you see the ‘lol’?”

It is weak behavior.

Women are attracted to certainty. We like a man who says what he means and stands by it. When you attach a nervous giggle to a statement, you are subconsciously telling her: “Please don’t be mad at me for texting you.”

The Confidence Test

Let’s look at the difference. One of these texts makes you look like a confident man with a plan. The other makes you look like a boy asking for permission.

The Weak Text: “I was thinking maybe we could grab a drink sometime this week lol.” (Translation: I want to see you, but I’m terrified you’ll say no, so I’m pretending it’s a casual joke.)

The Confident Text: “I want to see you. Let’s grab a drink this week.” (Translation: I am interested. I am making a move. Ball is in your court.)

See the difference? Guy A is hoping she likes him. Guy B knows what he wants.

The Fix: The Backspace Challenge

Here is your homework: Before you hit send on any message, look at the end of the sentence.

Is there a “haha”? Is there a “lol”? Is there a crying-laughing emoji?

Unless you are reacting to an actual joke she made, DELETE IT.

Get comfortable with the period. The period is sexy. The period is definitive. The period says, “I said what I said.”

Coming Up Next…

Now that you’ve stopped giggling nervously, we need to address the conversation itself.

You think you’re “getting to know her,” but you’re actually boring her to tears. You aren’t having a conversation; you’re conducting an interrogation.

READ MISTAKE #6: THE INTERVIEWER ->